November Highlights:
- Lilah has fun volunteering at color run
- I see the Anthony Bordain show at the Pantages theater
- We take our first snow trip of the season to Mammoth
- We celebrate Thanksgiving
- Luke joins the Big Bear snowboard team
- I decide to make a career change
Lilah is One Confident Young Lady Who Says What She Means
Recently, I followed a link to an article that covered several different character traits associated with emotionally intelligent people. There was one point in particular that stuck with me and it was something to the effect that emotionally intelligent people are not afraid to honestly call people out when they are not honoring their commitments. Lilah has never been shy to express her feelings in this regard and this month provided her another opportunity to do so when a boy in her class wasn’t doing his part in a group project. Apparently, Lilah’s team had to produce a video based on interviews with different members of her group. Lilah said the boy in the group was giving one or two word answers which was not going to work. The other members of the team could see that the boy was not cooperating but nobody was saying anything until Lilah stepped in and said, “You know what, this is not going to work. We need more from you than one word answers.” The boy said that he did not choose to be part of the group and was being forced to do this assignment by the teacher. Lilah said, “That’s fine, we did not want you in our group either, but we need to complete this assignment.”
I don’t know what her exact words were since I was not there, but Lilah told me that her friend Morgan said that was the meanest thing she had seen her say to another person face to face. Lilah said she felt frustrated by the situation and that nobody was saying anything — so right or wrong, she expressed what she felt and the boy ended up cooperating in the end. Though I may not have told the boy “we did not want him in our group,” sometimes, in the heat of the moment, you say what you mean and deal with the consequences. All I can say is kudos to Lilah for having the courage to take a stand — something tells me that even though she may not have been diplomatic, the boy understood there was truth in what she said and that’s why he ultimately capitulated and helped his team.